BECOMING WHOLE
AND AUTHENTICALLY YOU
UNTRANCE YOURSELF
COACHING FOR PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION AND DEVELOPMENT
DO YOU ENJOY BEING YOURSELF?
ARE YOU LIVING THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE?
WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK?
AUTHENTICITY
We, as humans, have all, throughout our lifetimes, to a greater or lesser degree, experienced not feeling safe, not being seen, not being supported, or not even feeling welcome to be truly ourselves.
This might have been due to our upbringing, education, culture, or simply because this wasn’t even a question in the environment we grew up in.
We have learned to play roles to fulfill expectations and suppress healthy and important parts of ourselves.
This separation not only leads to to a loss of joy, spontaneity, and the essential qualities those split-off parts of ourselves originally provided, but also a sense of fundamental shame and inadequacy as human beings.
What I see in our culture today is that the most widespread and promoted are three main false solutions, which are not only ineffective in addressing this loss of our initial wholeness, but are also detrimental and destructive to ourselves and others:
MOVEMENT
BREATH
IMAGINATION
WHOLENESS
Addictions: Be it substances or behaviors, that briefly give us a false sense of pleasure and numb the feeling of shame and inadequacy. This also includes addictions to pleasure, money, sex, status, success, performance, attention, power, and fame.
So-called 'self-improvement': We try to become better, work harder, do more, become stronger or smarter, believing that someday we might gain the upper hand in our internal battles against our inadequacies and stay there.
Ideologies. Be it left or right: We live in a time where it has become mainstream fashion to project our internal splits onto the collective and call it politics. We identify others or groups who embody the qualities we reject in ourselves, blame them, and believe that if we could just change or worse - remove them — all problems are solved.
In my work, I propose and endorse a different approach: reverse the initial split, learn to fully love and accept ourselves again first, and become whole and authentically you!
UNTRANCE YOURSELF
A trance is a state of selective attention. Trances are a completely normal and natural part of everyday life—we experience them constantly. You can think of consciousness as a flashlight with two functions. Floodlight: illuminating a wide area, but without focus. Spotlight: focusing intensely on a limited area while everything else remains in the dark. This is what I mean by selective attention—it’s simply the way we set our filters for what we can see and what we cannot. It’s the same with the roles we play in life.
Our personalities are a form of trance: states of selective attention, filters that determine who we allow ourselves to be and who we do not. What parts of our personalities are in the light and we have access to and what remains in the dark. Children are very flexible, moving from one trance to another playfully. One moment they are a tiger, in the next a pirate, and suddenly it’s bedtime, and they are their parents’ children again. As we move through life, we lose this flexibility. We behave like actors who have forgotten they are playing a role. Often, the solutions to our problems lie just outside the roles we unconsciously limit ourselves to.
Untrance Yourself is about regaining flexibility, awareness and conscious choice with our roles, in order to be in integrity with our authentic goals, wellbeing and purpose in life.
ABOUT ME
My name is Tobe. I'm a certified clinical hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner and breath coach. I have also been a dedicated student of traditional Eastern martial arts, philosophy, and meditation, as well as Western psychology for many years. I love traveling and being in nature. And I have a life story, which made me very interested in processes and methods for personal transformation and development.
I OFFER TOOLS, FRAMEWORKS AND EXPERIENCE
SUPPORTING, GUIDING AND INSPIRING PEOPLE
IN THE PROCESS OF PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION AND DEVELOPMENT
I work with both groups and individuals - in person and online.
ARE YOU...
INTERESTED IN PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION AND DEVELOPMENT?
WILLING TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN LIFE?
EXCITED ABOUT SERIOUSLY WORKING ON YOURSELF?
ALREADY DOING PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT WORK AND LOOKING FOR A BREAKTHROUGH?
COMPLETELY NEW TO THIS AND WANT TO KNOW WHERE TO START?
YOU ARE WELCOME
I am here to support.
HUMAN CONNECTION
INDIVIDUAL SUPPORT
CUSTOM SERVICE
