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TESTIMONIALS
JULIA - paragliding instructor
"I can only thank you from the bottom of my heart. Tobias has such a wonderful way of creating a completely safe space and making it possible to fully open up and let go. Through his empathetic, calm, and also motivating approach, he helped me open entirely new doors to myself and truly communicate with my subconscious. I felt incredibly comfortable in every session with him, and Tobias guided me to real 'Aha!' moments and breakthroughs through his deep knowledge, understanding, and structured approach. I always look forward to working with him again. Thank you, Tobias! You really helped me take a big step forward and come into my own strength."
ALEXANDER - publicist
"Even in my first conversation with Tobias, I felt that I could truly be myself—without a mask, without pressure. For the first time, I was not analyzed, but seen. It was not just about goals or solutions—it was about me. His calm, philosophical manner helped me recognize things within myself that I had never grasped before. I finally understood who I really am—not who I thought I had to be. Tobias accompanied me at a significant turning point in my life, like a true friend."
SANDRA - dental assistant
"Dear Tobias, I am completely grateful that I got to meet you. With your humane and empathetic nature, I always feel that I can fully bring all my questions and concerns to the sessions. And with your incredible knowledge and understanding of the human soul, you help me move forward a little each time toward becoming whole. You see the parts of me that I was never allowed to be, and I feel encouraged and valued to believe in myself and my strengths. At the same time, you help me treat my weaknesses with loving care. That helps me enormously. In the calm and strength of your voice, one can hear that you speak from true experience. That gives me support every time. Every meeting with you is something very special. Thank you, and all the best on your path!"
BREATHWORK INFORMATION
Transformational Breathwork is about emotional processing and stress release. Over time, we accumulate stress and tension from life events and unprocessed emotions—some recent, some from long ago, often still alive in our nervous system unconsciously. What we then experience as stress, emotional blockages, or inner critics can even manifest as psychosomatic symptoms. Breathwork is a natural and powerful way to process and release these unconscious emotions. Benefits are immediate: a regain of inner calm, clarity, insight, and often personal breakthroughs in various life areas.
breathwork journeys via zoom
Thank you for showing interest in going on a breathwork journey together with me. You might be completely new to this, some of you might already have some prior experience with breathwork. Here's everything you need to know to join me online for breathwork:
- The event itself will be for about 2h. The journey itself will last about 90 min. The rest of the time will be for introduction and integration. You can think of a breathwork journey as a kind of guided meditation with music, where you will be comfortably lying on your back and I will be guiding you through a sequence of breathing and deep relaxation, that allows you to process and release stress and emotional blockages. To optimally prepare for your session, all you will need is:
a room where you will be undisturbed for about 2h
a mat or a carpet where you can lie comfortably on the ground
a stable internet connection and stereo headphones
an empty stomach and loose clothing
- Breathwork is a natural and safe practice, suitable for all ages and does not require any prior knowledge or training. The approach to breathwork I share and endorse is a natural full body breathing style that creates intensity through gentle consistency, rather than speed or pushing boundaries. Detailed instructions on the breathing technique, setting up your space and specific health considerations will be given prior to the session in the introductory part of the event or per eMail in advance. You can really just come as you are!
You can find out about upcoming breathwork events here.
Breathwork is about emotional processing and deep release, refining the quality of your relationship with yourself: a loving massage from within.
TESTIMONIALS
JEFF - entrepreneur
"I've had the pleasure of doing several breathwork sessions with Tobias, and each one has been uniquely powerful. Tobias has a deep understanding of how to tailor each session to your personal goals, whether it's stress release, gaining clarity, or, in my case, improving performance in my business. As a professional and entrepreneur, I found his sessions immensely helpful. One was focused specifically on sales, and the insights I experienced led to a noticeable shift in how I showed up in my work. Tobias creates a safe, grounded space that allows you to go deep without pressure. His calm presence, intuitive guidance, and ability to tune into what you really need make the breathwork journeys not just effective, but transformative. I would highly recommend working with him, especially if you're looking for something that supports both personal growth and professional development."
JAVI - actor and theater teacher
"I first met Tobi 15 years ago in Buenos Aires, when he was traveling in South America and I was his acting teacher. Life has a funny way of circling back — this time, he became the guide I needed. I was going through a personal crisis, and his coaching helped me find clarity and strength again. What amazed me was his lighthearted way of leading me to deep insight and new perspectives so seemingly accidentally that I only realized weeks later what was going on and I finally was able to break free from my crisis and recovered grounding, found self belief and passion in my daily life and work again. His mix of wisdom and humor made even the hardest conversations feel playful and effortless. I still can't fully grasp how he did it, but I will always remember his sense of humor and that knowing smile. Maybe he's a bit unorthodox, but definitely he's one of those rare people who will really care when you truly need help."
ANNE - educator
"I can wholeheartedly recommend coaching with Tobias. Anyone looking for someone who truly listens, intuitively understands the core of the matter, and works with a lot of empathy and creativity is in exactly the right place here. Particularly enriching for me was an exercise in which we combined conversation with bodily awareness – for the first time, I felt how closely our emotional experience is connected to the body, and this opened up a completely new depth for me. Tobias does not work according to a fixed formula; instead, he draws from a broad methodological repertoire, adapts individually, and remains authentic and present throughout. I felt seen, understood, and supported – and above all: I had made tangible progress."
BIOGRAPHY
MY ODYSSEY
I was born in 1982 in West Germany. I spent my early childhood with my family living close to New York City in the US. I still feel tears of joy coming up every time I experience the take off of an airplane. We moved back to Germany around the time I entered school. For my parents, I believe those years outside of their home country must have been a first liberating experience of not having to be themselves, not the way they would have in their own culture. I am very thankful for those few early years, I was able to experience true happiness as a child.
Back in Germany it was as if an old shadow was catching up with my parents. Some of it personal, but also some that was hanging like lead over German society, the still unresolved history of Germany's very unlucky first half of the 20th century. As a child, it was palpable, something that made me become rather withdrawn and anxious socially. And it is enough to say that my own home turned more and more into a place in which I, as a child, was no longer safe either, because of the marriage issues of my parents. I had to learn to take on roles and false personas to meet external expectations to emotionally survive. It hurts not to be seen, not allowed to be or even feel welcome for who you are.
The ways I used to deal with these hurts was either by compensating with good performance, which luckily at least I could, 'cause for some reason I was gifted and things used to come to me relatively easily. But I always also felt socially very awkward and insecure. I remember a time, when I got hurt in romance in my teenage years, that I gave up on love. You might say God or believing in the good in the world. I was a perfect lost soul candidate to get sucked into a rebellious, anti-salvatory neo-marxist mindset, that allowed me to externalize my suffering, feel as a victim, raising my both middle fingers to everything and everybody, whilst feeling morally superiour at the same time. The same spirit that is still relentlessly amassing lost souls today.
After I left school I went traveling for good luck with no plan, little cash and a vague conviction that I would turn out to be an artist of some sort. I believe that the intent was genuine. Traveling I guess reminded me of the best times in my life, those early childhood years that I kept dear to my heart. I must also say that I never could travel as freely as I wanted to, because I always also had this super-ego voice in my head to do something responsible, like studying or learning a profession. After I returned from India, unsuccessfully trying to smuggle jewelry, my father died. And moreso the last bit of hope in my heart, that my family would ever be re-united. I could no longer travel.
I started studying history, philosophy and law mostly at Berlin Humboldt University and Sorbonne in Paris. For the wrong reasons I guess. They were not waiting for my revolution and they were also not there to fix my heart. It might have been something like Inner Guidance by a Higher Self, that at the same time inspired me to pursue the study of traditional karate do. It is something that preserves pre-modern virtues and values and also an unexpressed foundation of deep spirituality, something seemingly lost in the West. It was a lifeline that kept me connected to some kind of meaning in a meaningless world. Berlin is not the best place to be if your heart is not safely rooted in healthy values.
I escaped once more to live in South America, where I first came in touch with theater and acting. And I remember well that moment when I was drinking an espresso in Buenos Aires, when I realized, that I always used to think about daily life as real and actual acting as pretense. But for some reason on stage, for the first time I had the feeling, that it was just the other way around - this was real, while out there in society we were constantly just playing roles. Running out of money, when I returned home to finish my law studies one way or the other, I could no longer pretend. I quit without a degree and continued to study acting at an independent theater school in Berlin.
We did a lot of psychophysically very demanding exercises, that powerfully opened the door to the subconscious. I was working on a performance based on the fairy tale the 'Frog King' back then with my lover. She was also an actor. I remember her well by the lines of a Tom Waits song: 'she was sharp as a razor and soft as a prayer'. Only after we broke up and she broke my heart, I read a book about the psychoanalytic symbolism of this fairy tale. She did not break my heart, she threw me against the wall and what broke was my shell. That layer of defenses and pretense I had been wearing my entire life to protect myself from my emotional wounds. Was she my nemesis or my good fortune? But what a pain, realizing, that by the age of thirty I have never really grown-up. My life started to fall completely apart.
All those masks, those false personas, the addictive patterns and behaviors would no longer work to fill the hole in my soul and the pain for not really being me. And a long quest would follow for me to find answers and solutions, cause starting this day I had a demon by my side, that wouldn't let me go until I stopped running away and started to listen to what blackened my soul. Only years later would I have heard about this nice little piece of wisdom, that it is the diabolical that takes things apart as opposed to the symbolic that reunites scattered pieces back to wholeness and integrity. For a very long time, holding on to those lessons I learned in martial arts practice, was the only thing that allowed me to keep faith and still move on. So I pushed further into practices of meditation and studies of psychology.
I was desperate to find those symbols of personal change and transformation. A quest that is not really new to mankind for millenia. And change started to come in, when I learned that change is possible and had been found before. My hypnotherapy teacher used to say: insanity is temporary, sanity is permanent. A Self that is greater than one’s ego. Today I might say that there is a pattern of wholeness, that is untouched, untainted by the matters of space and time, that is constantly trying to manifest itself through us. We don't have to create wholeness, all we need to do is remove the obstacles, some call it surrender. Finally there was hope! And the practice began. I started to see that all that I was or I thought I used to be, was nothing but trances, roles I played my entire life, but finally only roles and that I am not them, but the actor.
It took another few years of studying and experimenting with various forms of body work, meditation, drama therapy, breathwork and transpersonal hypnotherapy to find and develop methods that are still working for me. I am seeing more and more clearly that each role has a physical, an emotional and a mental component, that are interdependent of course. Through mindfulness, we can become aware of our unconscious beliefs and behaviors and through movement, breath and our imagination we can learn to change those beliefs, emotional and behavioral patterns. I learned that the answer to end our conflicts is never outside of ourselves. It is not others, not the world, not reality or the human condition that is flawed and needs or could even be changed. No matter how well intended, fixing the external always leads to violence. Projecting our own misery onto the world and trying to fix it externally does not work and also only leads to more conflict and war. The answer is truly within, what we need to change and it is all about becoming at one with ourselves again first. And I'd be lying if I said I was done with my own work. But what better way is there to come to the end of an endless path, than loving and accepting oneself as a work-in-progress and courageously marching on?
And the good news is, we don't have to do it alone. Or better said through our limited individual selves. The wholeness, that is greater than all of us, is ever present, accessible and more than willing to support us on our journey through life. I'm not talking about artificial intelligence, I'm talking about real intelligence. What makes us whole is truth. What allows us to bear the truth is love. Life is good and I am interested in sharing with you what I have learned. You can call me a coach, but what I truly feel is: a fellow traveler. Cause traveling is in this world, what I love the most, next to being at home!
FREEDOM & RESPONSIBILITY
BALANCE
COMPASSION & CARE
